Family traditions are important. They help build family identity, unity and connectedness – in the immediate family, extended family and across generations. For my family, one such tradition concerns birthday celebrations – and the ubiquitous carrot cake.

Our daughter preparing her father's 60th birthday cake
Our daughter preparing Tony’s 60th birthday carrot cake, while our grandchildren look on

 

Families may be the building blocks of society, but they are neither static nor predictable. They are dynamic, ever-changing entities. This is why it is important to establish family traditions.

When I was a young mum, I read What is a family? by Edith Schaeffer. It had a significant impact on my thinking about the nature of family and the importance of family traditions. Here are a few selected passages from What is a family? Chapter 1:

“A family is a mobile. A family is the most versatile, ever-changing mobile that exists. A family is a living mobile that is different from the handcraft mobiles … an intricate mobile made up of human personalities. … [It is] an artwork that takes years, even generations, to produce, but which is never finished. The artwork [requires] … imagination, creativity, originality, talent, concern, love, compassion, excitement, determination, and time. … A family is a grouping of individuals who are affecting each other, intellectually, emotionally, spiritually, physically, and psychologically … toddlers, young schoolchildren, teens, young married couples, middle-aged couples … grandparents. … A family will in some tiny way picture the beauty of the gigantic art form of the complete “Family” of those who have come to God in His given way and been born again. … A Christian family is a mobile blown by the gentle breeze of the Holy Spirit.”

In the midst of incessant change (within families and in society generally), families need stability and constancy. Family traditions help build family identity, unity and connectedness – in the immediate family, extended family and across generations. They help us honour and appreciate each other. They strengthen family bonds and allow members of the extended family the privilege of contributing to our lives as the years go by.

Clearly, producing a strong, happy, resilient family doesn’t just happen. It takes time – years – and requires much patience, effort and commitment.

Family traditions have to be established, maintained, celebrated and remembered.

These traditions include patterns of behaviour, routines, regular activities and events shared by various members of the family – parents and children, grandparents and grandchildren, aunts, uncles and cousins. Other families and individuals may be included in a family’s traditions as well. This is an aspect of hospitality.

Photographs, video-recordings, books, newspaper cuttings, diaries and mementos help enliven and preserve the memories of these traditions.

Over the years, our family has established many family traditions.

Here are just a few:

1. “Just for fun” activities and games (indoors or outdoors, quiet or crazy)
These include table games, after dinner “rumbles” on the carpet, doing actions to classical music, playing games or sport in the backyard or nearby park, going for a walk or a bike-ride. It’s the regularity and predictability of these activities that makes them a “tradition”.

Dida (Granddad) playing chess with the grandchildren
“Dida” playing chess with his grandchildren

 

2. Mealtime routines
As an example, for the evening meal on week days, the routines include: setting the table, serving the meal, saying (more often singing) “Grace”, sharing about the day’s events, cleaning up after the meal (in our family, the person who cooks does not clean up afterwards – that’s our rule).

3. Food appreciation and preparation
We acknowledge each other’s “favourite” meals by providing them at regular intervals. At the same time, we help younger members of the family learn to appreciate, enjoy and share in the great variety of food and meal options available to us. With the exception of my husband, each adult member of our family loves to cook and considers cooking an art form. We encourage the children to contribute to meal preparation and assist in cooking, as they are able.

The children helping to prepare dessert
The children helping to prepare dessert

 

4. Bedtime routines
With each child (separately, whenever possible), we read a story, read a Bible passage, sing songs and pray together.

5. Personalised family songs, jokes and nicknames
My husband has a great sense of humour and fun. For him it is natural and easy to make up a family song, a ditty for each member of the family (using their name, rhyming words, etc.), family in-jokes and nicknames. My husband and I and each of our children and grandchildren have a unique and treasured nickname.

6. Sunday worship
For Christian families (such as ours), this is an important family tradition to establish. Setting aside time each week to worship the Lord, participating in the services ourselves (as an example for our children), spending time with other Christian families and individuals who love the Lord, nurtures our family spiritually, psychologically and emotionally.

7. Family holidays
Family holidays can be repetitive and predictable: this is the basis of the tradition. We go to stay with parents/grandparents, because they don’t live in the same city. But we don’t mind. The children and grandparents in particular look forward with great anticipation and excitement to the regular visits. Or we go camping at the same seaside resort or National Park each year. We’ve been there before, lots of times and we know what to expect. But that’s what we like about it.

8. Birthday, Christmas and anniversary celebrations
Our family, like many others, has traditions related to birthday, Christmas and anniversary celebrations. For us, these celebrations typically involve a family get-together, special food and drink, gift-giving, personalised greeting cards, and a celebration cake. Sometimes we invite our friends to share the event with us.

“The Ubiquitous Carrot Cake” is a story about one of our family traditions: birthday celebrations.

The birthday cake has always been an important part of our family’s birthday festivities. When my children were little, from their very first birthday, I made a novelty birthday cake. When they were old enough, they were able to choose the cake and its design.

The Bung-in Cake is my cake of choice for the novelty birthday cakes I make. And I have made lots of them over the years! The recipe is versatile: it allows for a plain vanilla cake, chocolate cake, orange cake or cupcakes. It is easy to prepare and I have never had a failure using this recipe.
 

Making Lucas's 3rd birthday cake
Making Lucas’s 3rd birthday cake

 

Lucas's 3rd birthday cake, a digger
Lucas’s 3rd birthday cake, a digger

 

Lucas and his 3rd birthday cake
Lucas and his 3rd birthday cake

 

This tradition concerning birthday celebrations continues with our daughter (Ruth) and her children, our grandchildren.

Ruth’s cake of choice is the Carrot Cake. She has a wonderful carrot cake recipe, which she has been using successfully for at least 10 years. This recipe has been used over and over again for family birthday celebrations during that time (hence the “ubiquitous” carrot cake). Our grandson Lucas chose a carrot cake for his 9th birthday celebration.

Click here to read more about Lucas's 2015 birthday celebration.

 
We celebrated Lucas’s 9th birthday in 2015 with another family, and Lucas ended up with TWO birthday cakes. Lucky boy! The other family made a gluten-free chocolate cake, decorated as a soccer field (Lucas plays soccer), complete with cardboard “players” drawn and coloured in by Lucas’s little friends. So the 9 candles were spread over TWO cakes!

2015: Lucas's two birthday cakes
2015: Lucas’s two birthday cakes

 

As a birthday cake, the carrot cake is a great choice because it is:

  • healthy and nutritious (especially if you omit the cream cheese icing)
  • firm but moist
  • nutty and spicy
  • versatile (you can use different spices as you prefer)
  • able to be made the night before, and stored
  • at your fingertips (you’re likely to have all the ingredients at hand)
  • irresistible (especially with the naughty but nice cream cheese icing)
  • a feel-good cake (you don’t feel full or bloated after indulging).

We include members of the extended family, young and old, in our birthday celebrations. Sometimes we have had four generations present ranging from little ones just walking, through to great-grandparents in their 80s and 90s, with their wheelie walkers in tow! It doesn’t matter whether the person is young or old. We celebrate the birthdays of the older members of our family just the same as for the younger ones. Each person gets a cake, a cake of their choice. There is the obligatory singing of “Happy Birthday” and the ceremonious cutting of the cake.

2006: Ruth's grandfather and his 87th birthday carrot cake
2006: Ruth’s grandfather and his 87th birthday carrot cake

 

But there is a twist in the tale of the ubiquitous carrot!

Click here to read about the carrot cake that wasn't a carrot cake!

 
Ruth’s husband, aware that Ruth loves carrot cake, decided to make a carrot cake for her birthday a couple of years ago. However, in trying to juggle household tasks, three small children, Saturday sport, as well as preparing for a birthday celebration, he forgot to add the flour to the mixture! The result? A very well iced carrot and nut slice!

Ruth recalls: “The icing layer was almost as high as the carrot layer.”

 

the-ubiquitous-carrot-cake

 

Here is Ruth’s carrot cake recipe. I hope you try it, and enjoy it as much as our family does!

 

CARROT CAKE

Cake ingredients

3 eggs
1 cup white sugar
¾ cup cooking oil
11/3 cups flour
½ teaspoon salt
11/3 teaspoons bicarb of soda
11/3 teaspoons baking powder
11/3 teaspoons cinnamon
2 cups grated raw carrot
½ cup chopped nuts (walnuts or pecans, preferably)
1 teaspoon vanilla essence

Method

  1. Grease a 20 cm round or square cake tin and place baking paper on the bottom.
  2. Heat oven to 150 degrees Celcius.
  3. Beat eggs and sugar until frothy.
  4. Add oil and stir in sifted dry ingredients.
  5. Fold in grated carrot, nuts and vanilla essence.
  6. Bake in the oven for 1 hour.
  7. When cool, remove cake from tin and ice with cream cheese icing. Decorate with walnuts or pecans (optional).

Icing ingredients and method

Combine by beating:
125 g cream cheese
250 g icing sugar
3 tablespoons butter
1 teaspoon vanilla essence

 

Lucas's 2015 birthday carrot cake
Lucas’s 2015 birthday carrot cake

 

11 comments on “The ubiquitous carrot cake”

  1. Oh yes the carrit cake has deginitely played a part in our birthdays as well. Ruth has made them for kevin in particular. But one very memorable birthday cake was a coconut cake Ruth made for me 3 years ago. She went to an enormous amount of trouble but rhe result was AMAZING. One never to be forgotten.

    • I thought you would appreciate this story, Jennifer. It must bring back lots of memories. I recall you telling me about the amazing coconut cake. The pity was that we were not with you to share it! (And don’t worry about the spelling mistakes! I know you can spell. I’m assuming you are “on the move” at present, and using you mobile.) Keep safe! Love, Judy

    • God mother, these are beautiful birthday memories keep it up. you are such a blessing to many.The carrot cake looks yum, i will definitely try to bake one.

  2. God mother, theses are beautiful birthday memories ,you are such a blessing to many. The carrot cake looks yummy i will definitely try to bake one

    • Darling Rose. Thank you for taking the time to let me know what you thought about “The Ubiquitous Carrot Cake”. I’m glad you found it a blessing. As I was writing the story and choosing the photographs to include, I couldn’t help but think of you and our little Joshua. His first birthday celebration this year was special for our family, and I really enjoyed making and decorating his big number “1”. Precious memories. God bless you and our little Godson.

  3. Thanks for sharing the important characteristics about your family and how you celebrate birthdays. The cake pictures look very delicious. I will have to try a GF version of that carrot cake. Love A

    • Thanks for your feedback, Amanda. I did think of you and your need for GF food. Yes, try the recipe using a flour substitute. It should still be a great success. God bless, Judy.

  4. Loved reading about Ben and Elsie in Rockhampton…..and the photo of the house. Also I have printed out the carrot cake and Bung In cake recipes and will take them “for a spin”. The other day I cooked your Pork Chops Sweet and Sour, from the recipe book you gave me so many years ago – (Recipes for Busy People). I am now no longer so busy, having taken redundancy and now at home full time trying out all so many new recipes. Only down side is….I have had to increased my walking each day to an hour to keep “the situation” under control so I can keep cooking and trying new recipes. Lots of love to you both, and the families, Lyn & Ross

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