Yesterday afternoon Tony and I were privileged to attend Alwyn and Fay Neuendorf’s 60th wedding anniversary celebration. Alwyn and Fay were married at Balimo in the Western Province of Papua New Guinea on October 4, 1956.

The afternoon’s proceedings included introduction of family and special guests, afternoon tea, slideshow, special greetings, cutting the cake, hymn-singing, speeches, and a time of connecting.

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Many members of Alwyn’s and Fay’s large extended family, and friends, attended the function at North Pine Baptist Church, Alwyn’s and Fay’s home church. To begin proceedings, Alwyn introduced and said a few words about each family member present. Of their children, Laevai, Pate and Kevin were able to come; Tom and Rupa sent apologies. Alwyn’s sister Merle, from Melbourne, was among those who attended.

Afternoon tea, slideshow, special greetings, cutting the cake

Following afternoon tea and a time of mingling, we enjoyed a PowerPoint slideshow depicting highlights of Alwyn’s and Fay’s 60 years together. Before Alwyn and Fay cut their 60th wedding anniversary cake, Kevin Neuendorf (Master of Ceremonies) read four special greetings. These were messages of congratulation from the Honourable Peter Dutton (local Member of Parliament), the Honourable Malcolm Turnbull (Prime Minister of Australia), His Excellency Sir Peter Cosgrove (Governor-General of  Australia) and Her Excellency, Queen Elizabeth II.

The 60th wedding anniversary cake. Photo source: Judith Salecich 2016.
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The celebration cake. Photo source: Judith Salecich 2016.
Alwyn and Fay cutting their 60th wedding anniversary cake. Photo source: Judith Salecich 2016.
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Fay and Alwyn cut the celebration cake while son Kevin looks on. Photo source: Judith Salecich 2016.


During our time together, we sang a few of Alwyn’s or Fay’s favourite hymns. These included: “How deep the Father’s love for us”, “The church’s one foundation”, “The old rugged cross” and “Beneath the cross of Jesus”. Each song reminded us of Alwyn’s and Fay’s enduring faith in our Lord Jesus Christ.

Speeches (testimonies)

Several speakers testified to Alwyn’s and Fay’s loving, godly and faithful service during their 40 years of ministry in Papua New Guinea. The first was Professor Betty Lovai (Executive Dean, School of Humanities and Social Sciences, The University of Papua New Guinea). Alwyn introduced Betty as his Gogodala “niece”.

Professor Betty Lovai spoke in honour of Alwyn and Fay. Photo source: Judith Salecich 2016.
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Professor Betty Lovai. Photo source: Judith Salecich 2016.

Betty described Alwyn’s and Fay’s  contribution to the nation, the Gogodala people and four generations of her family, as “priceless”. She spoke much about the role Alwyn played in bringing the Word of God to her people, beginning with her grandparents. Betty concluded by saying to Alwyn and Fay: “Your legacy will live on.

Ganjiki Wayne, one of Alwyn’s and Fay’s 26 grandchildren, spoke on their behalf. He praised his grandparents for their wisdom and enduring godly example. Ganjiki described their relationship, which is as strong as ever, despite the passing years. When he is old and frail, Ganjiki wants to be just like them: uncomplaining, appreciative and still loving life. Speaking for all the Neuendorf grandchildren, Ganjiki declared, “We are all proud to be Neuendorfs.” He thanked his grandparents for encouraging them in the pursuit of excellence.

Walo Wayne, Ganjiki’s older brother, played guitar and led the grandchildren in a beautiful song in honour of their grandparents.

Kevin Neuendorf spoke on behalf of Alwyn’s and Fay’s five surviving children. He acknowledged the passing of brothers Andrew and Tinoi, who are now “with the Lord”. Kevin was emotional as he recalled the way Alwyn and Fay brought each one into their home at various stages in their teenage years. He said that Alwyn and Fay nurtured and disciplined them, and taught them to live a practical Christian faith at home and in the marketplace.

Kevin Neuendorf spoke on behalf of his siblings. Photo source: Judith Salecich 2016.
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Kevin Neuendorf. Photo source: Judith Salecich 2016.

Kevin read extracts from Alwyn’s autobiography “Open Your Mouth Wide”, where Alwyn described how he met Fay, proposed, prepared a home for his bride, celebrated their wedding day and spent their first furlough in Australia.

Alwyn Neuendorf responded. He shared a little of his and Fay’s ministry during their 40 years in Papua New Guinea and what they have been doing during their retirement in Australia. (I have written about this previously in The Neuendorf Connection.) Alwyn testified to God’s goodness and faithfulness to them every day of their long lives together. Now 88, Alwyn said he still “has fire in the belly” and hopes he can continue to serve the Lord in his teaching ministry for a few more years.

Other speakers included Dr Danny Lean (Alwyn’s and Fay’s General Practitioner and family friend) and Pastor Duncan Moody (Senior Pastor, North Pine Baptist Church). Pastor Moody prayed for Alwyn and Fay before proceedings ended with singing of the doxology (“Praise God from whom all blessings flow”).

The entire Neuendorf Family. Photo source: Judith Salecich 2016.
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The extended Neuendorf Family. Photo source: Judith Salecich 2016.

Our Neuendorf connection: Alwyn and Fay

It was wonderful to be part of Alwyn’s and Fay’s special day. Tony and I appreciated being invited to this celebration, which honoured Alwyn’s and Fay’s “sixty years of faith and obedience together in Christ” (to quote the words of Laevai’s invitation).

Tony brought his old book of quotes to show Alwyn the text he gave us so long ago (12/11/1974). I wrote about this in The Neuendorf Connection (April 23, 2016). Alwyn’s words meant a lot to us at the time and we have never forgotten them:

God has a point of view for every situation we face. The Bible presents God’s point of view. Christianity is not a myth or a theory, it is a way of life.

Seeing these words yesterday, Alwyn confirmed, “Yes, I would have said that.”

Tony shows Alwyn the 1974 quote. Photo source: Judith Salecich 2016.
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Alwyn and Tony. Photo source: Judith Salecich 2016.

Our Neuendorf connection: The next generations

During the afternoon, Tony and I reacquainted ourselves with Kevin and Pate, both of whom we hadn’t seen for years (Kevin 29 years, Pate 41 years). We met Kevin’s wife, Numa, one of my lovely Facebook friends. We spent some time with Laevai and his wife Setae (whom we met with earlier this year). I was thrilled to meet in person many of my dear Facebook friends, from the third generation of Neuendorfs: Fay Abe-Neuendorf, Ao’Ralema Neuendorf-Molok, Ganjiki Wayne and Walo Wayne. And yesterday I gained two new Facebook friends, Haidi Wanya, the daughter of our late friend, Andrew, and Raphie Molok (husband of Ao’Ralema)!

With Pate, one of the Neuendorf "children", a friend from long ago. Photo source: Tony Salecich 2016.
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With Pate, one of the Neuendorf “children”, a friend from long ago. Photo source: Tony Salecich 2016.
With Walo Wayne, one of the next generation of Neuendorfs. Photo source: Tony Salecich 2016.
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With Walo Wayne, one of the next generation of Neuendorfs. Photo source: Tony Salecich 2016.

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Judith Salecich

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5 thoughts on “A 60th wedding anniversary”

  1. Can I copy this and give it to my granddaughter, Myrah Vui-Neuendorf to read at home. I love the stories you have told.
    This story needs to go on the PNG newspapers-it is beautiful and is a story that confirms that marriage is long lasting

    • Of course, you are welcome to make a copy to share with your granddaughter. I am more than happy for the story to be shared in the PNG newspapers with appropriate credit given to its source. Many blessings, Judy.

  2. Thanks so much for being the unofficial official reporter for the event. This is a great summary indeed. And the photos are great! So glad to have met you.


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